Why is it so seemingly simple for some couples to conceive, but yet for others, so frustratingly hard to get pregnant? While this question can be answered some of the time for some couples, at many other times, the answer to this agonizingly difficult question eludes us.
If after a year of actively trying to conceive (regular, unprotected sexual intercourse) you are still unable to get pregnant, it’s time to go see your doctor before you jump onto the infertility bandwagon. Just because it seems as though you can’t get pregnent, this doesn’t mean you are automatically infertile. There could be any number of explanations.
Some couples simply find it hard to get pregnant and need help with conceiving more than other couples, and it’s not always easy to pinpoint the reasons. This may be your particular case, as well; if you can’t get pregnant, you may just need some help with conceiving.
If your doctor says everything is fine—which is the case in about 10 to 15 percent of couples who are unable to get pregnant—then it’s time to take control of your fertility. For the woman who finds it hard to get pregnant, it becomes essential for her to learn about her ovulation and her peak fertile period, and to then concentrate sexual activity during that period. There are other factors affecting fertility too; for example, the older you are, the more likely you will be unable to get pregnant.
There are many other tips for help with conceiving, as well, and you can go online and visit pregnancy and conception websites and forums for additional information. Your doctor can also be a great resource and help with conceiving.
However, there may be underlying conditions in either you or your partner that are affecting your fertility and making it hard to get pregnant, which your doctor will help you to discover during your fertility testing. Some of these conditions include sexually transmitted diseases, history of pelvic inflammatory disease, endometriosis, low sperm count and motility, an eating disorder, abnormalities of the uterus, a chronic disease, among others. Some of these conditions can be treated to boost your chances of conception; others can’t.
If you doctor has diagnosed you as a clinically infertile couple—whether there’s a medical explanation behind it or not—you still have a number of options if you want a child. First of all, you can keep trying. A number of couples have gone on to conceive a baby (usually by surprise) after hearing confirmation from their doctors that they are in fact unable to get pregnant.
If you have the budget for it, you can also try alternatives if you can’t get pregnent on your own, including in-vitro fertilization, surrogacy, using a sperm donor, and adoption. However, most of these options can be expensive, and also all carry with them a certain element of risk.
It’s best to conduct some investigative research and ask your doctor a lot of questions before choosing an alternative route when you can’t get pregnent.
Being unable to get pregnant—as difficult, frustrating, and stressful as it is—isn’t a sentence to a life without children. It just means that it takes longer and is usually more difficult and expensive to get there.